I mentioned last week that I’ll be taking some time to focus on me. I made the decision to take a break and refocus a long time ago, but now that I’m actually in process, I’ve been having more breakthroughs than I ever imagined.
My goal is to one day look back at everything I’m going through right now and say “That was tough and I wanted to give up, but I got through it.” In order to do that, I need to keep track of what’s happening. So as I go through this time of change, I’ll be sharing my journey with all of you!
This past week, there was one really big thing that I’ve learned:
Reaction and response are two very different things
Reacting happens in the moment, whereas responding happens when we take the time to think, listen, and see all sides of the situation we’re in.
Most times, reacting comes in the form of extreme anger, rage, sadness, and whatever else. It’s in those times that we react where we lose ourselves and get into trouble — trouble that could have been avoided if we took the time to pause and respond instead of react.
The next time you feel the need to react — STOP, think about what’s going on, and come up with a response that will benefit you instead of hurt you.
It wasn’t until a few days ago where I finally realized that I react more than I respond. I tend to feel certain things more intensely than others. In the past, I’ve been told over and over again that I overreact and that I need to learn to let things go… And although those things are true, I’ve acknowledged and accepted my flaws and I’m continuously finding ways to better myself because of them.
From taking breaks from whatever I’m doing, to writing down how I feel in that moment, to texting one of my mentors to help me process whatever I’m going through, I’m learning how to respond instead of react. It’s going to be a tough, long, on-going learning experience… But I have faith and I trust the process.
Do you react or respond?