Never Forget Who You Are… Whose You Are

Hi, friends!

For the past year or so, Linsey has been my mentor. She’s seen me at my worst, and encouraged me to continue to work towards my best. Linsey has been one of the greatest blessings in my life thus far, and I’m so proud to call her my mentor and my sister. I look up to her in so many ways, and I love seeing how strong her faith and love for Jesus is.

Linsey is amazing, to say the least. This month, you guys have the chance to get to know my wonderful mentor a little more.


If you could change your name, what would you change it to?

I don’t have anything specific in mind, but probably something Hawaiian because I’ve always wished I was Hawaiian, haha.

What are your favorite colors and why?

I like pink and teal. Not exactly sure why, but mostly because they’re pretty.

What are your favorite simple pleasures?

Watching my husband play with our boys.
Hearing my son crack up laughing.
Having a clean house and car.

If you could have any superpower, what would it be and why?

To be invisible so that I could play tricks on people and then watch and laugh without them knowing.

What makes you “weird”?

I thought you said I wasn’t weird?! Hahaha! Ummmm, I’m Asian but I don’t like Asian food. When I eat sushi, I only eat the poke, tuna and egg ones.

(To be fair, I did tell her that she was my only friend who wasn’t weird… But I just needed to ask. Haha!)

What advice would you give to your younger self?

Never forget who you are… Whose you are.  

What is the best advice you’ve ever received?

In regards to marriage (but can be applied to leadership or work as well), when you can’t trust the man/leader, trust the God behind them.

What is your greatest quality/skill?

Being real with people.

How do find the strength to keep going?

I remind myself who my God is, what He’s already done, and what His promises are.
When it gets hard to do that alone, I ask close friends to help me remember.

What do you believe is the difference between settling for things and accepting the way things are?

I believe settling is giving up, losing fight to keep pressing on… Usually losing patience and hope. I think accepting things the way they are is being able to change your perspective toward your situation or circumstance. I believe accepting things the way they are or embracing them comes with peace.

Do you believe “the grass is always greener on the other side?” Why or why not?

I don’t believe that.  I believe comparison will kill you. Comparison will cause discontentment in your own life, which can lead to jealousy, envy, and bitterness.

Think about the hardest trial you’ve had to endure. What did that experience teach you?

The hardest thing I’ve had to endure was having our son, Pono, be born 3 months premature, having to stay in the NICU for 107 days, and all that came with that.
That experience was a challenge of my faith and trust in God. That season taught me that I can’t always change my situation, circumstance, or season that I’m in, but I can change how I view it. It taught me that I may not always understand God’s plans, but I can trust that He is purposeful in all that He does.

What has been your greatest accomplishment?

Becoming a wife and mother.

Define what a “best friend” is to you.

Someone who will love and accept you for who you are, no eyebrows and all… Haha!
Someone who will be there for you, no questions asked. Someone who will tell you the truth even when it hurts and someone who will continually point you back to Jesus.

What do you wish you had done differently in the past 10 years?

I would’ve been more intentional in becoming a better version of myself. Looking back in hindsight, all I was about was being a good leader. Yes, I worked on some character issues, but being married for the last 3 years, I realize that had I worked more on my character than my ability, the lessons that I am learning in marriage would be a little different than the ones I walk through now. I feel as though the Lord has tried to address things before I got married, but I didn’t see it’s effect or the need to fix anything, but now that I am married and I see how things directly effect my husband and kids, I wish I had taken time before, when I was single (with no other obligations or people to care for, when my attention wasn’t so divided) to address these character issues.

Who or what inspires you?

Stay at home moms who are just so good at taking care of their family.
Women who are “gracious leaders” – they get stuff done, but in a way that is so sweet, gracious, and loving.

What are some life lessons that you had to learn the hard way?

To trust and be patient with God’s plan. When we try to take matters into our own hands, it’s often more messy and painful.

What questions do you often ask yourself?

I am one to learn the hard way… Through consequence instead of wisdom. Because of this, I usually ask myself, “What should I have done? What would’ve been a better way to handle that?”

What are your top three personal values?

-Integrity/Honesty
-Grace
-Commitment


I love and appreciate Linsey so much. I hope all of you have someone like her in your life.
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