There are many things in life that I had to experience on my own in order to understand and learn, love was one of those things. In fact, I’m still learning new things about love as the days pass.
The concept of love has always confused me. Each time I think I’m close to understanding what love is or what it means, something new happens and makes me rethink everything I’ve learned.
I’m not sure what you have learned about love, but I’ve learned so much in my 25 years. All that I’ve learned is based off of my family, friendships, romantic relationships, friendships, experiences, and even some searching within myself. I believe that the concept of love is different for everyone, just as I’ve learned about love through my own experiences and relationships, someone else may have learned different things.
Love is a choice.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it over and over again: love is a choice. There are so many people who believe that love is just a feeling, which is what I believed until two years ago. You choose to love the person you’re with, everyday, over and over. You can probably think of a million reasons to leave. There will always be someone prettier or more handsome, someone more intelligent, someone better — but even with all of these things, you need to choose to continue to love the person you’re with.
Love is a language.
“I love you” isn’t always expressed by just saying “I love you.” Sometimes, “I love you” could be picking up the tab when the check comes, a text that says “I thought about you today,” hosting a get together, offering to pick you up so you don’t have to drive, picking up food for you on their way home, getting you an unexpected gift, and so on. There are different ways to express and communicate love.
**To learn about love languages, click here.
Love is breaking the walls you’ve put up.
Whether we want to admit it or not, we’ve all been hurt in one way or another. Each time we get hurt, even in the smallest way, we tend to put up walls. Those walls become harder to break the longer we let them build up. If you continue to build walls, you’re not letting people see all of you. How can someone love you if they don’t know certain things about you? Break down those walls and let others in, let them truly love you.
Love is unconditional.
True love accepts someone just as they are and doesn’t anticipate what they may get in return. No matter the person’s past, flaws, mistakes, or messes, true love will embrace everything that they are. Love cannot be bought or given under specific circumstances, and should never expect anything in return. Learn to love others unconditionally, you will be surprised at how much you’ll learn about yourself during the process.
God is love.
The most important things I’ve learned about love can be found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7:
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” (NLT)
For a long time, these were just verses in the Bible to me. I never thought about what these verses said or meant. It wasn’t until last year when I was doing my daily devotional and came across these verses again and finally understood why they’re so important.
What have you learned about love?