Choose Love

Hi, friends!

I’ve mentioned before that I like to use thought-provoking questions as journal prompts, so to keep the theme of ‘love’ going for this month, I wanted to share some of my journal entries about love.

Is it more important to love or be loved?
I believe it’s more important to love than to be loved.
Loving others is one of the most important things in life. When you love others, it helps you to grow. You get to learn about yourself and those you love.

Is it better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all?
It is definitely better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I would rather have the chance to experience love and lose it than to never experience love at all.

Who or what do you think of when you think of love?
When I think of love, I think of God. It is because of God that I know what love is and am able to love others. Knowing God, experiencing His love, and learning about what He has done for me has taught me what love really is.

Do you believe in love at first sight or do you think it takes time to grow?
I don’t believe in love at first sight. If there’s anything that happens at first sight, it’s lust. Love is something that takes time, as two people learn and grow together, not something that happens at first sight.

What does it mean to allow another person to truly love you?
To allow someone to truly love you is simple, yet complicated. You need to make yourself completely available to that person, letting them see every part of you. You have to break down the walls that you’ve built around whatever secrets you’ve been keeping, and let that person in. Someone cannot truly love you until you let them.

What is the difference between falling in love and being in love?
Falling in love is more of a feeling, where as being in love is a choice.
When you’re falling in love, you start to feel things about a certain person that you haven’t felt or acknowledged before. You get to know them, learn what makes them unique, and you feel a sense of attraction, infatuation even, towards them.
Being in love is choosing to have those feelings towards the same person constantly. At this point, you’ve learned almost everything about them,  seen them through the good and bad, and even when there are things about them that you may not like or agree with, you choose to love them anyway.
The process of falling in love happens before being in love, but can also happen over and over while you are in love. Sometimes, when two people are in love for a long time, they forget why they continue to choose to be in love — that’s where many relationships fail. Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean that you should stop falling in love.

What makes love last?
Many things contribute to making love last. Both people have to choose to continue being in love. The moment one person chooses otherwise is when things start to go downhill. Along with that, I believe both people need to learn and practice communication, compassion, understanding, compromise, and trust.

Why must you love someone enough to let them go?
I never knew the answer to this question until about a year and a half ago. I’ve always heard the saying “If you love someone, let them go” and other variations of that, but it never made sense to me until I experienced it myself.
Love is about sacrifice. It’s about wanting the best for them, to see and make them happy, and doing what you can to make that happen. You have to love someone enough to let them go because sometimes what’s best for them, what will make them genuinely happy, no longer includes you.

When is love a weakness?
Love is a weakness when it is blind. There are too many times where we let love, or even just the thought of love, make us blind. We want to love someone or something so much that we begin to ignore all the red flags. We fix our eyes on the things that we want to see and feel, and away from the things that go against what we want.

What would instantly make you fall out of love with someone?
I don’t think I would ever fall out of love with someone in an instant. There may be certain points where I start to fall out of love (like if they were unfaithful, lied about something I trusted them with, hurt me or my family physically), but completely falling out of love will take time.
I’m far from being an expert at this stuff, but I can honestly say that all of these answers are from the heart.

Are you choosing love?
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